Why women date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on from old ages. Extramarital affairs can be filled with troubles, cause misery, and other harms. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating for married.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affairs. I am sure mainly though it is just the human nature, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us escape the real world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people can switch the desire on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos society has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your relatives or anybody else? You will need to lessen the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair occasionally solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, as a rule the guy is sexually neglecting his spouse for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us men of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be caring is not here, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have simply developed separately, our ordinary concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.